The Return of Me!

It has been a while… I mean it’s been well over a year since I have posted anything!

Yeahhhh….

Allow me to recap and summarize what has happened in my life.

My father was fighting cancer for over a year and a half and I was working temporarily at a Maersk warehouse doing logistics and driving forklifts/clamps. This job was not ideal primarily because of the lack of leadership, but it also did not help that the warehouse was built in the 90’s, was not upkept very well and the summers were insanely hot, and the winters were horribly cold. But… I was thankful to have work while I re-adjusted to life changing events that had/was occurring in my life.

Two weeks before my father passed away, in the late summer of 2024, I was asked by my family to step down from my position at work to be completely available for my father and mother on a daily basis. Looking back, I believe my family knew my father’s time was short, but I was completely clueless because I did not want to know “how much time” the doctor’s believed my father had.

This was my first real experience of death, not just for someone who was close to me, but also the experience of being in the room as God called my father home.

My grandparents, on both sides, lived far from me and even though I knew my paternal grandparents, the pain I felt when they passed was not directly towards losing them, rather it was the pain I could see in my father’s eyes. I have been to funerals but never to anyone I was close to. I have never been home when any of my pets have died or was put down. I have been blessed to never really experience the pain of death up until this point but it was life changing when it occurred.

We experienced Birthday’s, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years and Anniversaries without my father all in the first four months of his passing. I didn’t know what to do with myself and I can’t imagine what it felt like for my mother who was married to my father 40+ years.

Thankfully, my immediate family knows Jesus as our Personal Lord & Savior and as a small family, we were able to push through by the grace of God and be available for each other.

A TON OF STUFF HAPPENED since then… lol

My Ate (older sister) became pregnant with her second child, I started attending two bible study groups; one at my home church in Portsmouth (Thrive Church) and one at a local church in Hampton (Northside). My mother started attending Northside and got into various support groups to help her through the loss of her husband. I started working directly for my siblings in administrative work, construction, and various roles of “support”. Then I started singing with my worship team at Thrive Church, my siblings bought the house next door to me, ripped the entire house apart, dug huge warfare looking trenches in the backyard in order to expand the house for a larger kitchen, extended living room and an in-law suite.

Let me tell you…

I was the on-site “Junior Forman” overseeing the work, calling the city, scheduling/working with inspectors/contractors and I was constantly running all over the place figuring things out, learning, growing and freaking out at the same time! I now understand why many contractors can be a bit rough around the edges lol.

The end of 2025 brought a huge amount of change….

I became an uncle to my newborn niece! I had gained a huge amount of experience in construction from the work that was being done next door at my sibling’s house in addition to other job sites my Kuya (older brother) sent me to. My Kuya brought on a new Executive Administrator for his primary business in finances (Of whom I really enjoy working with when I consult/support that side of his business) and I was preparing to branch out as a “General Consultant” when the New Year came around.

So let’s talk about 2026!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!! I HAD NEW NEIGHBORS!!!!

The final inspections of my sibling’s house passed and they began to move in New Years 2026!

The “move-in” process wasn’t that bad, besides having to remove a second-floor window in order to lift/raise their huge Alaskan King sized bed into their house. Kuya had admitted he didn’t account for the process of trying to get the headboard up the stairs hahaha. Maybe one day I’ll post a video or pictures of the process, but that bed is HUGE!

Once they got everything “in” the house the process of organizing everything was what took the longest and to demonstrate just how long it took… Yesterday (July 13, 2026) was their first “House Gathering” they had!

I mean it makes sense when they had to unpack, move things around, set things up, buy new things, hang things AND take care of a newborn, a three year old, two puppies and in-laws. Yup yup… that’s a lot of work!

While all of that was going on, I renewed my LLC and went full on “General Consultant” in order to branch into different lines of work, rather than just being a 1099 of my siblings’ business’. I still very much work for them but I’m working on building something for myself and my future family!

As a side note and on the topic of future family… I am still “single” but over the past, let’s say, 3.5-ish years since my divorce, I have learned a lot about myself, my walk with the Lord, my relationship with my family and my relationships with other people. I did “date” someone for a short period and I have considered asking out a few women but ultimately, I have realized I don’t want to date anymore. I want to court someone and I’m not ready to be “the head” of my marriage and I do not want a repeat of my past self or past spouse in my future.

With that all being said… I am finding myself falling in love with the “fairer skin” and I have realized that I am being drawn towards gingers and brunettes and the in-betweens … Just throwing that out there… LOL

Anyway… back to my update!

I’ve been working through various foundations of my business along side working on my home/personal life. I had my 39th birthday back in May, which made me realize even more areas of my life that I need to work on, e.g. health/diet and general personal growth. I’ve been doing a lot of yard work which has been kicking my rear end due to the heat but I’m slowly working on getting a better inventory of tools to make that easier (I’ll have a post one day about my yard tools/toys!).

I’ve been leading worship songs nearly every Sunday and at times I have been blessed with the opportunity to lead 3 out of the 4 worship songs. There has been a “proposal” to become heavily involved with a new ministry at my church (I’ll have updates on that later as they come into action). It has been on my heart for a while now to get vocal lessons because I want to use this gift to best of my ability for the glory and honor of God!

Outside of everything I have just typed, I have been building a strong support system with various pastors/mentors and godly men in my life that I reach out to at least once a day. As I mentioned previously… I have no desire to duplicate who “I was” in my past and I have no desire to duplicate who “I was with” in my past. It sucks being single at times, but it sucks even more dealing with the consequences of poor choices. It’s a lot easier working through my past with a group of mentors/godly men when I’m not distracted by “love” lol.

That’s pretty much what I’m going to say for an “update” on my life.

Sure there’s a lot of other things that happened but I’ll save those for another time and another post!

Until My Next Post!

God Bless!